Comments on: Would you date a with an eating disorder? http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder Answers to all your questions about eating disorders. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:33:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: blondie6l http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1668 blondie6l Wed, 08 Jul 2009 21:44:46 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1668 make love to her hahaha make love to her hahaha

]]> By: Frankly Speaking http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1667 Frankly Speaking Sun, 05 Jul 2009 12:58:25 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1667 Try and get her into the modeling industry as form of therapy. There are a lot of women like that in the fashion industry and talking with them couldn't hurt.... Well, OK it might if she started using the kind of drugs they do to stay thin but.... at least she'd be making some money. Seriously though, eating disorders have a lot to do with low self esteem and mental abuse. The reasons can be so deeply embedded in the subconscious that it could require a great deal of therapy to get the issues addressed, much less resolved. If there was clear evidence that the woman wasn't the type to sabotage relationships, lash out and demean everyone around her because of her self loathing nature and there wa really something sparked between us, I think I would try to stick by her for as long as possible. But who can say for certain what HER behavior would be like, can you? Try and get her into the modeling industry as form of therapy. There are a lot of women like that in the fashion industry and talking with them couldn’t hurt…. Well, OK it might if she started using the kind of drugs they do to stay thin but…. at least she’d be making some money.

Seriously though, eating disorders have a lot to do with low self esteem and mental abuse. The reasons can be so deeply embedded in the subconscious that it could require a great deal of therapy to get the issues addressed, much less resolved. If there was clear evidence that the woman wasn’t the type to sabotage relationships, lash out and demean everyone around her because of her self loathing nature and there wa really something sparked between us, I think I would try to stick by her for as long as possible. But who can say for certain what HER behavior would be like, can you?

]]> By: manda p http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1666 manda p Fri, 03 Jul 2009 07:22:08 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1666 You should go on a date and see just how badly she is invloved with the disorder. See what kind of person she is. I mean, if it's seriously out of control I would make sure that she acknowledges the fact that she has one, and find out if she is working on getting better somehow, before you start getting attatched. If it's so consuming how will she make room enough in the relationship for you? You dont wanna put your heart into something like that and then have something horrible happen to the person. I think the problem should be addressed and you should be up front about how you feel, IF it goes beyond just dating. Offer help and encouragement. But definately give her a chance, she may be a wonderful person! And maybe thats all she needs...a chance :) You should go on a date and see just how badly she is invloved with the disorder. See what kind of person she is.

I mean, if it’s seriously out of control I would make sure that she acknowledges the fact that she has one, and find out if she is working on getting better somehow, before you start getting attatched.

If it’s so consuming how will she make room enough in the relationship for you?

You dont wanna put your heart into something like that and then have something horrible happen to the person. I think the problem should be addressed and you should be up front about how you feel, IF it goes beyond just dating. Offer help and encouragement. But definately give her a chance, she may be a wonderful person! And maybe thats all she needs…a chance :)

]]> By: sophieb http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1665 sophieb Thu, 02 Jul 2009 08:44:17 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1665 depends on what the eating disorder is, I mean can she chew and swallow, or is she merely alergic to certain foods, or does she cough and get sick at the table or what? Or is it something that can be overcome in time or with medication, or will it last forever and get worse or a lot worse like cancer or something. What I'm saying is that "some" things are normal and some are exaggerated. See what effects she has and see if you can accept them or live with them. To me, I'm really picky so if someone has an eating problem then we'd stop going to restaurants and eat at home so neither of us would be embarrassed. If you get invited to a wedding reception or something then you eat at home and then go to the reception. You can work around it if it's not too bad. depends on what the eating disorder is, I mean can she chew and swallow, or is she merely alergic to certain foods, or does she cough and get sick at the table or what?
Or is it something that can be overcome in time or with medication, or will it last forever and get worse or a lot worse like cancer or something. What I’m saying is that “some” things are normal and some are exaggerated. See what effects she has and see if you can accept them or live with them.

To me, I’m really picky so if someone has an eating problem then we’d stop going to restaurants and eat at home so neither of us would be embarrassed. If you get invited to a wedding reception or something then you eat at home and then go to the reception. You can work around it if it’s not too bad.

]]> By: Mr. Smallest Room In The House http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1664 Mr. Smallest Room In The House Wed, 01 Jul 2009 21:42:02 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1664 I'd do two things: 1) look at her case sympathetically and empathize with her difficulty and 2) ask myself a very sober and serious question, which is, do i want to be involved with someone with a type of mental illness, knowing the kinds of complications that usually leads to. I’d do two things: 1) look at her case sympathetically and empathize with her difficulty and 2) ask myself a very sober and serious question, which is, do i want to be involved with someone with a type of mental illness, knowing the kinds of complications that usually leads to.

]]> By: ~jeweler babe~ http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1663 ~jeweler babe~ Sun, 28 Jun 2009 17:01:58 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1663 You try to support her and help her get over it as much as you can. People's judgment is probably what drove her to an eating disorder to begin with, trying to be accepted. So why don't you accept her as is and like her for the reasons you first went out with her? What's the problem here? Oh yeah, it's you. You try to support her and help her get over it as much as you can. People’s judgment is probably what drove her to an eating disorder to begin with, trying to be accepted. So why don’t you accept her as is and like her for the reasons you first went out with her? What’s the problem here? Oh yeah, it’s you.

]]> By: pinkyismygirlfriendniluvhur http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1662 pinkyismygirlfriendniluvhur Sun, 28 Jun 2009 07:20:25 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1662 I would try to help her I would try to help her

]]> By: chuckler http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-1661 chuckler Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:32:49 +0000 http://eatingdisorderquestions.org/eating-disorders/would-you-date-a-with-an-eating-disorder#comment-1661 Help her all I could. Help her all I could.

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